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Most people aren’t born a modern-day Shakespeare. We know it can be hard to write your wedding vow, so don’t be afraid to admit that you will need help. At the centre of any wedding ceremony are wedding vows, witnessed by dearest family and friends. It is easily the most important promise of your life. Sounds daunting? Fret not. WedElf guides you on the things you need to know before penning down an eloquent proclamation of your unwavering love for each other.
Set Aside Sufficient Time To Write (& Rewrite) Your Vows
It is always good to be prepared well ahead of time. Try to give yourself a month before the wedding date as you’ll realise the many drafts you’ll have to write before finalising on the perfect words.
Another advantage: writing your vow in the midst of wedding planning can take away all that stress, as you concentrate on the most meaningful part of your blissful union.
Make It Personal
After all, the wedding is about you.
Think about your relationship, both separately and together. Some questions to ask yourself could be:
- How did you fall in love?
- Why do you want to spend the rest of your life together?
- What do you hope for your future together?
Your vow can be funny, sniffle-worthy or classic. No matter what, the words should come from your heart and suit the type of relationship you have. You may want to add in some of your jokes but while your vows can be light-hearted, it should not undermine the lifelong commitment you’ll be making. Yes, you may also want to spur on a highlight reel of your relationship with insider codewords or very personal anecdotes, but remember not to go so far as to being cryptic. Your guests want to feel included too.
If in doubt, you can always keep it simple with the universal “I promise to love you forever until death do us part”.
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Look for Inspiration
You have already decided to write your own vows, but that doesn’t mean you can’t look to other examples for ideas. Many religions have traditional wedding vows that have been around for ages. Romantic movies capture interesting and famous wedding vows that have been echoed by pop culture enthusiasts. It also doesn’t hurt to head down to your local library to hunt for some published goodness. Furthermore, references to other wedding vows can be your Something Borrowed.
If you’ve come to a writer’s block, read all about Some Wedding Vows That Will Make You Believe In Love Again for your inspiration.
It may seem like a feat, but it will be worth it. Remember, at the end of the day, you are the author of your lifelong promises to your partner; so pen away, for better, or for worse.
By Crystal Moh